F- Feelings 

• Student names their feeling 

• Angry, sad, hurt, annoyed, etc.

Example: “I feel hurt.”

F- Facts

• Student tells the direct observation of the event

  • • No assumptions made (ie. they were trying to be mean)

• Be specific

Example: “You called me little.”

N- Needs

• Student explains their personal needs

• Think Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs

Example: “I need to feel respected.” 

R- Request

• Student makes a reasonable request of the other person

Example: “Can you please not call me little anymore?”